I reflect on a meaningful reunion with my close friend Anna, a physiotherapist I first met in November 2022 following major spinal surgery. Our connection began during a deeply vulnerable time, just days after I had a spinal meningioma removed, leaving me flat in bed, attached to drips and a catheter, and coming to terms with how quickly independence can be taken away. Despite us both being healthcare professionals, I describe how being a patient strips you of confidence and certainty, replacing knowledge with vulnerability and self-doubt.

A key part of our conversation centres on how easily symptoms - such as numbness, back pain, or changes in sensation - can be dismissed, especially by women. I share how I doubted myself, questioning whether my symptoms were “serious enough” to seek help. This delay is something many women recognise, often fearing they won’t be listened to. Anna highlights important red flags, such as progressive loss of sensation, reinforcing the need to trust our instincts and act early.

We also touch on an often-ignored topic: sexual wellbeing after spinal surgery. I speak candidly about how pain, neurological changes, and fear can affect interest in sex, and how little this is discussed in clinical settings. Being told vaguely that “sexual difficulties may occur” is not the same as having open, supportive conversations. Pain, discomfort, and altered sensation can profoundly affect desire, confidence, and intimacy, yet patients are rarely given space to talk about this.

Together, we emphasise the importance of listening to our bodies, believing our experiences, and not being afraid to speak openly with healthcare professionals. Our ongoing friendship is rooted in shared passion for patient care, advocacy, and ensuring that people - especially women - feel heard, informed, and supported in every aspect of their health.

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